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Emotionally unavailable men attract women because by nature women are nurturers and care takers. They feel they can "fix" the hurt and make it all better.
Low self-esteem is another factor that must be taken into account when considering why women enter into relationships with men who are emotionally unavailable. They don't think what they need is that important.

Women also are taught by subtle signals in childhood that they have limited choices. That somehow it is not normal to be alone. They believe they must be part of a couple to be worthwhile. Thankfully, this attitude is slowly changing in society.
If you find yourself repeatedly in relationships with men who can't or won't give of themselves, perhaps it is time to re-evaluate your inner self.

1. Realize that men and women really do think differently. Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus is not just a cute catch-phrase. The brains of men and women are wired differently by hormones. Men really do think differently. Learn to appreciate the difference and understand them.
2. You cannot "fix" someone else, you can only change how you react to situations and people. The only person you can "fix", is yourself.
3. Realize that you are worthy of love and absolutely NO ONE should make you feel less of a person or unworthy. Get rid of any guilt you may harbor for thinking of yourself and putting your needs first. Relationships are meant to enhance your life, not make you life miserable.
4. Realize that if you are alone it is a wonderful opportunity, not a disaster. Use the time when you are single to work on YOURSELF and what is important to you. Reach out to those who are also alone. Find ways to express your spiritual side by thinking and doing for others.
5. Most important of all, do not settle for less than you deserve. Remember, if you want to have a family, your future children deserve a father who will love and support them emotionally. This is especially important if you already have children! It takes a very emotionally giving man to love someone else's children.

Women are powerful creatures. It is time they realized the power behind a caring touch, a loving heart and took the choices they make in love seriously. It is time to realize that each of us is worthy of being loved and cared for. If you find yourself in a relationship that leaves you wanting more intimacy, take a look at these five realizations. No one can judge but you, if your relationship is salvageable or if you must move on. But if you change the way YOU think about YOU, perhaps you will find HE begins to think differently too.

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