by Steven Mckinney

Created on: February 20, 2008   Last Updated: February 24, 2008

I was once married to someone with multiple personalities. Yes, I said once. My experience was a very harsh awakening to the reality of multiple personality existence. In the dating period we did not go out a whole lot because my ex also suffered from back issues related to a botched surgery. I was fine with talking and watching television together. I did not date much before her. I was fairly picky and specific on what I wanted to see in a person and when I met her I admired her strength and her goals and desires.

Shortly after our first few dates I began to notice differences in her facial expressions and sometimes her overall demeanor seemed to change a little. I just attributed that to pain issues and stress. A little later I was told that she had obsessive compulsive disorder and manic depression. This was not good news but I understood her reluctance to reveal that information. I knew all about the stereotypes that are out there. At this time she also revealed that she had been abused by her extended family and by her father. The extended family was involved in some sort of witchcraft or something and she was forced to participate when she was a child. Basically, she was forced to lie down while her family chanted and would then do torturous things to her. She claimed they drove small nails up under her toe nails and other weird things. Her father was also abused by them when he was young and he, in turn, abused his kids. However, he did not torture them, instead he sexually abused them.

I was inexperienced with these type of conditions. I never really thought about them so when I was told I was not happy about it but I thought what does not kill you makes you stronger. She definitely appeared stronger having gone through so many trials in life. Things had progressed to having a date set for getting married. After a while another shocking admission occurred about a week before we were supposed to get married. She had multiple personalities. She told me not to worry because she was in control of the personalities and everything was fine.

This explained the therapist visits. She first told me they were for coping with her other issues but this seemed to be a better reason for weekly visits. I realized that I had noticed her multiples many times but did not know what I was seeing. She explained that she was scared to reveal that and let me believe what I wanted earlier. Looking back on the situation, I realize that I started to have issues with all the conditions

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