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have long ago been granted? Her plate is full to overflowing. There are not enough hours in the day to do her job and still be the central hub of home. Divorce rates have skyrocketed and she is harried, hurried, stressed and often on nerve pills. The price is great to her but greatest to her children.

She cannot work and be chief caregiver of the children too, so they are left in the care of others, who may or may not have the same values as their parents. Meals have suffered too. Now, instead of from-scratch, nutritious, home cooked meals, we eat from freezers and cans or a fast food joint. These foods have had all the goodness and value processed out of them and then synthetic man made nutrients added. Our body knows the difference and is telling on us by the rampant growth of obesity and diet related illnesses.

In her hectic day, there is no time for anything except the most negligible elements of the care she once provided for the family. Grandparents are in rest homes, repairs go undone, teachers and friends of the children are strangers to her. She often does not even know where her children are, if they are doing drugs, having sex or breaking the law. In a vain effort to keep up with them, she has glued cell phones to their ears, but it is not her they are talking with.

She has no time to teach them the morals, values and rules of life, little time to get to know them, or what their dreams and fears are. To fill in this gap, she along with her spouse have given them things' such as cars, credit cards, cash, laptops and freedom to come and go as they please.

Children today do not request what they want: they demand it. Most have no manners and are disrespectful to their parents and teachers. Crude and slang words have crept into the vocabulary of most. They spew hate words at those who are different and play cruel and dangerous pranks on those they do not like. They calmly walk into schools and kill their classmates and teachers.

Not all of our children are like this. Not all working moms have failed to create a working balance between family and career. However, the nightly news will tell the tale of how many have failed. Our children are in a crisis with little guidance since mom has joined the work force.

I am a woman who has watched this nightmare happen around me. I have known these moms and held a few who could not understand how their fourteen year old got pregnant, where a thirteen year old got speed or why their sixteen year old was driving drunk when he died. I have watched, as after the funerals, they returned to the same time consuming jobs, leaving their other children, to perhaps the same fate.

A mom can work and support her family when she needs to and still be there for her children. However, something has to go and it cannot be quality time spent with our children. It all has to do with setting priorities and sticking to them. Our children must be our number one priority.

I am saddened by what the lack of value placed on women, who choose to stay home, has done to this country, to our children and to our homes. To all moms, who have a healthy work/home balance, I say kudos to you. To those moms, who do choose to stay home and are able to, I say thank-you. To those who could and struggle because they dont, I say stop and think, take a good look at your children, and decide if that extra paycheck is really worth it. Do not allow the world to decide your worth, today. The healthy, productive, well-adjusted children you send out into the world, will speak for your worth.

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