It is always a shock to hear that someone has committed suicide, weather you know the person who has done it or not. It is even harder to cope when the person who has committed suicide was your friend or even your best friend. That's right, I said best friend. It is possible, and i am proof of that.

In 2005 my best friend committed suicide. It was in May and school was almost out. We were having so much fun and I didn't understand why she had done it. She seemed so happy and alive. She never told me about her problems at home. When I was at her house her family hid their problems. I thought she had a great life and a happy family. Little did I know, she was going through hell at home. Her step-dad always hit her for any excuse he could think of and her mom just sat there while he did it. The only reason I can think of as to why she never told me was because she was embarrassed about her life style and what was going on at her home.

I can't tell anyone how to deal with the pain when some one you love has committed suicide. I can't tell anyone how to keep from going crazy and doing the same as your loved one. I can however, tell you how I coped with my loss and my pain.

When I found out that my best friend committed suicide, I was upset, angry, emotional and pretty much any other emotion there was. I cried for a long time, and then I went to my family for comfort and help. I was so confused and hurt I just needed someone to lean on. I needed someone there to tell me everything would be ok and that I would make it through this.

When a loved one commits suicide you can't really do anything about it. All I can really say is that you just have to have someone that you can lean on, someone that can carry you when you can't carry your self. You should have someone there that can help you through your hardships.You really just need someone there to listen to you tal about it and to comfort you while you cry.

When a loved one commits suicide, it will deffinatly come as a shock to you. You most likley will feel shock before any other emotion. That doesn't meen that you don't care, it just meens you never thought this would happen to you. You read about people hurting them selves every day, but you never really thought that it was possible for someone you loved to hurt them selves. You shouldn't feel ashamed about thinking that wat either, because almost everyone thinks that way. They think oh, that can't happen to me. But, yes it can happen to you and anyone else in this world. Bad things happen to good people.

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