by Kory Ross

Created on: February 18, 2008

I have been divorced once ,and married twice. I have seen both marriages go through tough times ,and good times as well. My first marriage lasted almost three years. Half of that time my ex-wife ,and I were separated. My current wife ,and I have also been married for almost three years now ,and are still together. In many ways I see a lot of the same things happening in this marriage that happened in my first. Most people would think that should be a sign to get out ,but the things that are similar are not what you think. In both marriages we fight over stupid little things like taking out the trash ,and taking care of the family pet. (I don't like animals)

The things that are not similar are what killed my first marriage. Now if you think back to all of the advice that was handed down to you before you got married it probably was something along the lines of "Communication is the key to a good marriage" ,or "Once you get married the sex stops". These are both things I was told before my first marriage ,along with some other things.

As far as the communication thing. They were right about that. If you ,and your spouse can't sit down ,and speak to each other your in trouble. It doesn't matter if it is to ask how there day was ,or just to say I love you. If you can't talk to each other about anything that should tell you something has got to change. If things start to bother you ,and it doesn't even have to be something huge. Tell your spouse about it. Let them know that what you feel about certain things that are going on. It could be about things in the home ,at work ,in car on your way home from work it doesn't matter.

This is why you should tell them. All of the things that drive you insane in life will eat away at you. Keeping these things bottled up will not help ,because when people get irritated they tend to take it out on those closest to them. In a marriage that would be your spouse. So tell them when it is first apparent that it is bothering you.

So here is the scenario for this. You come home from work ,and you just put in a long day. As you walk through the front door you hear a thud. You look behind the door ,and one of your child's toys is pinned between the door ,and the wall. When you look up you see that your living room floor is covered with your child's toys. Your spouse is sitting on couch talking on the phone with there mother. So you bend over ,and pick up the toy ,and take it to the child's bedroom/toy room. When you get back to the living

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