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I would personally consider chatting on line to be a form of cheating. Not an adulterous affair but the first step towards one. If someone feels the need to seek out female or male companionship outside the marriage by meeting strangers on line then there is a serious indicator of a problem in your relationship. There is something lacking or missing. I think any time you find yourself opening up about your life to someone who is a stranger of the opposite sex then you are taking a step towards something that is probably going to lead you down a road towards an affair. Perhaps not with the person that you are chatting with but it means you are looking for something outside the marriage. Something that you lack in life.

I know that I would be furious to find out that my husband was chatting with women on line. I would feel that we had problems. I would want us to get to the root of the situation. I would want us to seek out counseling to better communicate with each other so we could see what is lacking in our relationship.

Your spouse should be your best friend in most regards. Many people maintain long term friendships with someone of the opposite sex after marriage. These people were strong friends before the marriage and there is no need to end the friendship based upon it being with someone of the opposite sex. Of course, men and women can be friends. Some of my best friends in life have been men. But that is completely and totally different from seeking out a stranger after your marriage to chat with on line. That seems to say that something is lacking in your marriage or your communication with your spouse. And unless you get to the bottom of the problem I think that its only a step away from evolving into an extra marital affair.

Affairs are normally not about the sex. They are about something lacking in your marriage. They are about a need that is not being met which is usually emotional. They indicate that you need to communicate with someone because you are unable to communicate with your spouse on some level.

Unfortunately, the Internet has made it easier to meet virtual strangers and become acquainted with them. This can be quite hazardous to a relationship and marriage. I think that people need to maintain self control and if there is a problem then you need to turn to your spouse and air it. Seek out counseling and save the marriage. That is my suggestion. If that means throwing out the computer then do whatever it takes to solve the problem.

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