by Danielle Higdon

Created on: February 15, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

The human race is so cynical. When we fail to achieve our ideals once or twice, we convince ourselves they aren't possible to achieve so we don't feel as bad about not having the one thing we've always wanted. People are afraid to admit that love really is worth fighting for, that it really is as miraculous as you see in those romantic movies, and that when you are in love, you really do forget the rest of the world, even for just a moment.

Love exists, and people do fall in love. What other reason could there be for that feeling when all you want is to be with that person, to make that person happy, to devote your entire existence to the bond you share. Ignoring the fact you were ever in love is a form of retaliation. You were hurt. So in order to deal with the loss of love, you convince yourself it was never really there to lose.

A person knows when they are in love. I dated several guys before I found the man I am with today, and nothing ever felt the same with any of them as the moment when I kissed him. It's been two years, and I still feel the same. I still love him, I still want only the best for him, I'm still happiest when I'm in his arms. There is no doubt in my mind that this is love. I am in love in every meaning of the term.

You can't control life. It's as unexpected as unexpected can be. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Sometimes it takes a really long time to recieve anything at all. But just because you haven't yet found love, or just because you thought you were in love and it turned out to be something entirely different, doesn't mean it doesn't exist. How does one know they are in pain? They feel it. When that pain goes away however, you no longer feel it, but you never deny the fact that you once felt it. Love should be the same.

Anyone who has to convince their self that there is no such thing as being "in love" to cope with their misfortunes in love, is not only cynical, but is diminishing the opportunities for new love. Love has to be believed in. If you don't believe in the idea of being "in love", then yes, perhaps YOU are never really in love. But that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. It means you haven't given it the chance to exist in your life.

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