by Amanda Coers

Created on: February 14, 2008

A married couple sinks beneath the covers on their bed, both moaning about how tired they are and groaning about the events of the day. After a few brief words are exchanged, they both make half-hearted attempts at sex and finally decide it's just not worth it. They turn on their sides and blame each other for the lack of spice.

Sounds like someone's "lost that lovin' feeling." Boredom in the bedroom can creep up on the happiest of couples - leaving partners confused and concerned. After all, why shouldn't you enjoy sex with the person you've pledged to adore for a lifetime?

Unfortunately many married couples address sex in a very married way. Buttoned-up, simmered down and basically boring!

This is not your grandmother's bedroom. Times have changed. The average married couple today is able to expand their romantic arsenal to include what was once considered taboo. Sensual oils, erotic costumes, naughty toys and even more risque fantasies can be enjoyed if a couple is focused on each other's satisfaction and pleasure with mutual respect and love.

The first step towards improving your marital sex life and banishing bedroom boredom begins with rededicating yourself to your spouse. Think back to your initial reactions to your partner when your relationship was new. With a little work, it can be relatively easy to rekindle those exciting feelings. Take the time to freshen up for your spouse. Ladies, wear sexy under garments. Gentlemen, spritz on some cologne. When you look your best, you'll feel sexier and your partner will respond.

The next step is having a sincere heart-to-heart talk with your spouse. Make sure you are both relaxed and there are no interruptions. Perhaps you can share a glass of wine to set the mood. It is very important to start the conversation lovingly and respectfully, explaining that while you enjoy sex with your spouse very much, you would like to explore different possibilities in order to increase excitement and pleasure. This is a very delicate conversation. Be very mindful of your partner's feelings and concerns. Tell your spouse how much you love them and how much you desire to please them. Be sure to let them know how much it pleases you when they are excited and satisfied.

Once you have established a respectful and loving atmosphere for this conversation, begin to discuss what you both consider to be erotic. Use common sense and discuss erotic ideas you feel confident will not disturb, upset or confuse your partner. As you each contribute

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