by Cherryl Floyd-Miller

Created on: February 13, 2008

Most men believe that flirtation is all about how much *trash* they can talk in a conversation. Often, if a woman responds to this kind of lustful chat, a man takes it as a sign to keep his eyes on the prize and forget about taking it slow.

Provocative, erotic talk can be a powerful aphrodisiac and does indeed have its place, but it is not always the way to go.

While many women respond to quick wit, humor and light, friendly boasting as safe flirting, it is often the nonverbal gestures that win them over.

SMELL

The way you smell can either make or break your good beginning with a woman. First, your natural scent will determine how well she involuntarily responds to you. It is true, some people are just chemically drawn to one another. Pheromones, chemicals the body gives off in the presence of other bodies, controls sexual and emotional behavior. Some of the way she responds to you is her body's choosing.

Cologne is the next level. Don't ever use too much. Applying it lightly at the pulse points on the wrists, neck or behind the ears is enough. Subtlety is key, especially if she has an allergy. You don't want to make her sneeze the whole time she's with you.

MANNERS

She may not wait for you to open the door for her or comment on the fact that you help her take her coat off or pull out her chair for her, but she notices. Good manners go a long way with women. They are attracted to confident men who are courteous enough to ask them if they agree with the plan for the evening. No woman wants to be around a man who always waits for her in order to make plans for the evening.

By the same token, women are put off by the man who takes so much control that she is always just along for the ride. It says that you put yourself first without any consideration for her desires. Remember the best plan of action is to have a plan, but ask for her consent. She'll remember that you had enough respect to check in with her.

HANDS

When you talk to her over dinner, what are you doing with your hands? Are they always under the table in your lap? Are you gently holding or massaging her hands while she talks? If you are hiding them, is it because you are ashamed of how they look?

Hands are extremely important for women. It goes far beyond where you place your hands, too. It all starts with how well you take care of your hands.

You want to make sure your hands are strong and attractive. A light manicure with clean nails, trimmed cuticles and no snags scores you many brownie points. A man who takes

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