Maybe more marriages would last for life...

In 2008, the average couple in the UK will spend twenty-two thousand pounds on their wedding. Maybe more marriages would last for life if they didn't start off in debt. It does seem like a smarter investment to spend that kind of money on your new house than on a single event.

Because your marriage is not just about the wedding day, your marriage is about all the days that follow your wedding day, until the day one of you is dead. These days we politely term it "As long as you both shall live..." but it means the same thing.
Because, marriage is all about the rest of your life, not just that one day.

Maybe more marriages would last for life if some of the money that would have been spent on the wedding is instead invested in a marriage counselor who can help you work out issues such as: Who is responsible of paying the bills in your new marriage? What about housework? How do both of your feel about both spouses working outside the home after marriage? Are your religious beliefs compatible (An Orthodox Jewish man and a devout, jihab wearing Muslim woman may have problems with their families in the unlikely event they meet, fall in love and decide to get married)

There's the cost of the wedding and the honeymoon, then you have to pay for somewhere to live and downsize his and her furniture if you were both on your own prior to 'the big day...' Marriage is about love, commitment, honoring each other, respecting each other...

So, if you're getting married, you need to be discussing things that are much more important to your future happiness than color schemes and clothes for the wedding. You'll benefit much more by being clear on where you're going to live, how you're going to pay your bills and whether or not you want kids. You'll also be much happier if both of you share the same types of dreams and goals for the quality of life you want to live

Yes! Keep it fun, affectionate and happy, but make sure you know exactly what you're getting into before you actually commit to being with this person "...as long as you both shall live..."

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