Where can you turn when life turns upside down.

Take a moment to reflect where one is. When life turns upside down for one, grief and sorrow abounds and all rational thoughts are depressive thoughts.

One can continue to grieve and feel sorry for oneself but what good is there if one continues to do so. There is a time to grieve and a time to be angry, to be sad, to cry, to mourn and to remember. Allow for this time to do so and then one must be able to move on for oneself and loved ones.

When is one ready to move on? One is ready to move on when one has time to accept what has happened and the time to grieve and mourn the loss or when life dealt a blow.

This is where time to reflect is very important where one seeks to make sense of what has happened and how best one can take one step at a time to allow one to have a sense of control that life can still go on. It is this very understanding and awareness that is important and once this realization that one needs to have the little bit of courage to deal with what needs to be handled. Sometimes eating can become too much for one who is so depressed so eating for one's health can become a struggle when one does not have the ability to think through what is required of the person to get past this struggle.

We need to turn to ourselves to find this ability to move on and once we are able to realize that Life is precious and we can and will be able to go on in life and one day help others as well. Until the moment is realized, whatever support or encouragement given by others will not be effective. The support and love given by others will only be helpful when one is able to help oneself understand that it is within us to make sense of our live when we are undergoing a struggle. This understanding is the very core of how we can think for ourselves and then decide to help ourselves out of this struggle to become a better person.

Faith in God, prayers, support and love by others can help us in our strive and once we are able to stand on our own two feet, that is where one can breathe a sigh of relief that one has made through the struggle or difficulties that could have break the person.

It is this ability within ourselves to understand that we are able to go through the darkest moments and it is the very same ability that once we decide that we can live on, that is where recovery and growth starts. If we cannot bring ourselves to think for ourselves, no matter how many prayers, how much support given by others, all will be for nothing as hope has no place when one cannot understand that it is the strength within that carries each one of us through struggles of life.

People who committed suicide failed to have this understanding and could not bring themselves out of depression. Rich and famous people who were dealt with disappointments or perceived failures could not think themselves out of death.

Understand that it is within ourselves we need to turn to when life turns upside down. Take all the time to care for oneself during this time and once decision has been made to move on, make simple decisions and keep the body healthy with exercises, fresh air and nutritious food.

Once the body and mind is alert, feel the gratitude that one has the ability to make sense of what has happened and then the courage and alertness will be available for one to face the world.

I would say turn inwards to oneself and reflect well. Discard thoughts that are depressive and have good thoughts only during the time when one does the reflection. This reflection will serve us well. Prayers and having faith in God helps one to know that for as long as there is life, there is hope.

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