Nothing could be easier than dating without drama.

Like cancer, you simply treat the drama by cutting it out at first sign.

That man or lady showing the first signs if jealousy? Cut them out. Get a new date.

In and of itself, jealousy is love in its purest form. But, if a date experiencing a momentary bout of jealousy allows it to turn into anger in ugly proportions, it's time for you to send them on their way.

Get rid of them, and get rid of the drama. Problem solved.

Don't even give them a second chance.

Find somebody new.

And while you're at it, find another and then another. This is dating, after all. Dating is not supposed to tie you to one exclusive person.

Dating is going out with several different people to find who suits you best.

Look at dating the same as you would buy fruits and vegetables. You don't select bruised apples and bananas for yourself. The grocer can keep them. The grocer should know better.

When have you ever bought just one apple or one banana?

Now apply this principle to your dating.

Let's illustrate with a very simple dinner date situation we've all probably endured before. Say your date is smacking their lips while eating. You hear the nerve-racking, seemingly never-ending sounds, but you politely don't say anything, and act as though it's not even happening.

We all try to be polite and overlook such things, don't we? You don't have to be so polite. You are already polite. Where is their politeness?

The question is not, "Should you endure?" The question is, "CAN you, realistically, enjoy your meals with a lip smacker?"

Next!

Too often we find ourselves saying, "I can overlook that. This person has so many other redeeming qualities." They should not have to "redeem" themselves in order to get another date with you.

It's virtually guaranteed if you overlook such a seemingly small item now, it will most likely become a bone of contention later on. Your past dating experiences are already confirming this for you!

So, nip that lip smacker in the bud now and move on to somebody new.

Weed your entire garden accordingly.

Remember that date who got an attitude when one of your friends called your cell phone? You know the question: "Who was that?" And, you know the tone and attitude that comes along with it.

They SHOULD be saying something like, "It seems as though you have some caring, thoughtful friends." Wouldn't this be nice for a change?

Dump the control freak quick-like if they ask, "Who was that?" with their disapproving tone. This is the person who will go psycho on you later down the road.

The recipe for success is simple: keep three, four, or even five "dates" in your stable at any given time. When one of them is on your last nerve, say, "See ya!" and find another to take their place.

You don't have to be intimate with all your dates either. Intimacy leads to that uncomfortable exclusivity we read about earlier, and then you'll find yourself feeling "stuck." By dating, our goal is to keep from getting "stuck" in the drama.

Play the dating game like it is meant to be played. You are dating, so date. Don't try to be exclusive with every man or woman you meet.

You will know when the right person comes along for you, because you will have weeded everybody else out to get to them.

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