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Complaining can be both a simple and effective method of venting stress and letting yourself be heard. Seemingly harmless, and used in moderation, complaining promotes a sense of accomplishment and alerts others that things are not exactly going the way you would like them to. Too often though, it becomes a crutch that can snowball out of control. When this occurs, complaining can put a damper on and sometimes destroy the best of relationships.

The person doing the complaining seemingly gains power and control of a situation with each effectively resolved complaint, all the while not realizing that they are becoming totally out of control of themselves. It is a gradual process and if not stopped, can consume their life. They could very well become a chronic complainer.

Most people know at least one person like this. To be truthful, you also know that you try your best to avoid them like the plague. What exactly is it about complaining that causes us to shy away from people we used to admire and love to be around.

Many times complainers are people with some degree of low self esteem, although they in their eyes are all that and a bag of chips. They are sometimes out of control with themselves and their life. They feel they have to be in control of something, so they try to control others by making themselves seem to be in control and powerful.

Sometimes complainers are not very physically active. They could actually go out and do something about the situation, but it is much easier to sit on their butt and verbally mouth off. If they complain enough, most likely someone else is going to get up off of their butt and do something to remedy their situation just to shut them up about it. Which is precisely the point of their complaining.

Some complainers can be self centered. Nothing anyone else ever does is ever done correctly, and certainly not the way they would do it if they did it themselves. Nothing is ever quite good enough. Complainers are the epitomy of perfection. If perfection is a reality, then nothing short of it is ever tolerated. Something could always be taken up at least another notch.

They might be striving their best to provide for themselves and those they love. They stand up for their rights and for the rights of others. In their mind less than the best is not allowed. If they pay good money for something, then they should get what they paid for, top quality, the best. What they fail to realize is that many other people really

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