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Learning how to successfully flirt with women will go along way to improving your dating life. And it really isn't hard. Women love guys who know how to flirt. Here's how you can successfully flirt with women, and enjoy yourself in the process.

First, remember that flirting is not a contact sport. Don't grope, manhandle or otherwise physically molest women under the guise of flirting with them. It's OK if they touch you - that's a great sign your flirting is working, in fact - but don't touch them without a clear invitation.

Second, remember that flirting is supposed to be fun. It's the opposite of serious. Women love to spend time with a fun guy so lighten up, and concentrate on enjoying yourself, instead of trying to impress her. She'll be impressed by a guy with enough confidence to know that he doesn't have to work hard to impress her.

Third, aim to tease rather than trying to suck up. Compliments aren't flirting. When you pay her a compliment you're creating stress rather than fun. Why? Because compliments imply you're looking for something in return; you're buttering her up because you're hoping to get some pay-back. Instead of telling her that she has beautiful eyes, tell her that her shoes look very comfortable. If she playfully punches you in response, your flirting is on the right track.

Fourth, remember that flirting is not about acceptance or rejection, it's about relating to a member of the opposite sex in a way that invites rapport. If a woman declines to warm up, or to reciprocate, don't take it personally. You haven't been rejected, because you haven't been offering yourself. You've been offering only a bit of light-hearted diversion.

Finally, realize that it's not so much what you say, it's how you say it. Listen to how your voice sounds. Low voices are sexy - think, bedroom voice. It's easy to lower your voice with a bit of practice. And when it comes to talking, less is more. Let your eyes do a lot of your communication.

You don't need any canned pick-up lines to be a successful flirt. You just need a willingness to put your ego on hold, and risk relating to women in an open, fun way without any expectations or hidden agenda. If you can do this, and if you follow the above suggestions, you'll know all you need to know to successfully flirt with women.

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