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"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). There you have it, the number one rule that Christian teens need to follow, coming straight from the Lord himself.

Dating a nonbeliever will only prove to drag a Christian down, even if they have the best of intentions. Many Christians think that if they date a nonbeliever that they will be able to bring that person to Christ. This is a nice thought, but lead this person to Christ as a friend, not a boyfriend or girlfriend. Friends tend to have less influence on us than a boyfriend or girlfriend does.

I am not saying that nonbelievers are bad people, they just don't believe the same things that Christians do, hence the name "nonbeliever". And therefore they compromise our beliefs and morals. And in order to stay strong and uphold our beliefs and morals we must surround ourselves with others that believe the same things. With all of the things that are accepted and even encouraged in today's society such as premarital sex, abortion and same sex marriage, how can a Christian put themselves amongst these sins and not be altered in some way? Do not put yourself in a situation that will compromise your relationship with God.

The reason that we date is to meet someone who we want to marry. If the person that you are interested in dating is not someone that you can see yourself wanting to spend the rest of your life with then don't waste your time. God always comes first, don't date someone that won't encourage your relationship with God to grow.

By dating someone that has the same beliefs that you do you will find it easier to avoid temptations. Support for one another to grow closer to the Lord is the single most important thing in a relationship, young or old. Temptation will still rear it's ugly little head and the simplest way to avoid giving in to temptation is to avoid it. Easier said than done, I know. Group dates are always a good idea, this way the young couple won't be alone. Youth group activities are a fun way to be together and be close to the Lord at the same time too.

Don't look at dating like the world portrays it. Sex is not what dating is about although that is the message that is being sent to the youth of today. Everywhere we look there are scantily clad women and the men that degrade them and see them as nothing more than sexual objects. It sickens me, be stronger than that. Stay strong together and stay strong for God. These things are key to having a healthy Christian relationship. As long as the couple keeps God number one in their lives and they support one another, the relationship will be a far healthier one than an unequally yoked one.

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