Drama is very entertaining to watch on the television. However, if you have too much drama when dating then it really isn't so much fun. We all know what dramatic behavior is. It consists of over-the-top reactions to relatively minor incidents. Drama is unpredictable, unreal and confusing. Ideally we want to have relationships which are mainly peaceful and definitely based on reality and trust. Drama goes against what we want when dating. Also we can attract drama ourselves, either because of our own personalities or simply not being prepared enough.

HOW CAN YOU DATE WITHOUT IT? I CAN GIVE 10 IMPORTANT POINTS TO CONSIDER:

1)AVOID DRAMATIC PERSONALITIES
The first tip I can give is to identify the drama-king or queen, before you actually date them! Some people have narcissistic personality disorder or other personality problems. This means they are more prone to hysterical, self-serving, attention-seeking behavior. These people can be very manipulative though and will reel you in so they can start playing cat and mouse games with you. Spot certain signs when you meet these people. They tend to view their lives in the role of the victim. Nearly everyone will have failed them in their view of their past. Also there will always be some big legal case they are having to go through either because of some imagined injury or a real one. Look out!

2)ACCEPT 'NORMAL' OUTBURSTS OF DRAMA
We always have that one thing that sets off drama in all of us. My fear of spiders definitely as me acting weirdly inappropriate about something which is minuscule in size to me that realistically can't do me any harm! My friend is so scared of snakes that she won't go near my house because she found out we have a grass-snake outside. This behavior could be considered relatively acceptable though when compared to the dramatic behavior of those with personality disorder. This behavior responds to reassurance and understanding. A bit of hysterical behavior isn't too bad and is present in most of us!

3)DISTINGUISH DRAMA FROM A REAL PROBLEM IN THE RELATIONSHIP
As we get to know our partner, we have a greater understanding of their personality. It may be that there are tensions in the relationship which are making your partner feel quite aggravated and aggressive leading to dramatic reactions. You may interpret their behavior as dramatic when in fact they may have a real problem with something in the relationship. Your bad memory for putting out refuse may be setting the Tasmanian

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