Having your ex as a friend? Now this has to be one of the most ridiculous and strangest and most nonsensical dilemmas, that human beings have ever come up with.
Now why would you want to be friends with your ex?
The reason that that person is now your ex is because you didn't like them when you were together and now you no longer want to be with them. Why would you want to be friends with someone you don't even like anymore?

Really, this is such a stupid concept, I can barely think of what to write about it.
But I will write something. I actually have lots to say and write about this topic.
If you could have been friends with your ex and you got along with them, as friends do, then you would still be with them in a relationship.
I have always maintained that if you couldn't get along with your partner when you were having an intimate relationship, you are probably not going to get along with them any better now that the relationship is over.

Remaining friends with your ex. I think people don't want to let go.
They are probably still a bit in love with their ex and don't want to move on or they wish to keep their options (or the door) open with this person.
They may still want to control them a little bit and it may be the old, "if I can't have him then no one can" syndrome. Then every time someone special and new comes into that person's life, the "friendly" ex can mess things up a bit - without meaning to, of course.
Or perhaps, you should have kept to being friends with this person to begin with and you should never have gone to bed with them and then got all carried away and moved in with them.
Now you've lost your friend and you are still single.
Sounds bad to me.

Reasons to keep your ex as a friend. If you share children.
Or if you share property and are waiting for it to be sold.
Remain friends until an agreeable settlement is reached and the sale is completed.
If your ex becomes gay, they will probably now become sensitive and caring friends.

Having your ex as a friend.
Well, it's up to each of us, what we choose to do in this ludicrous matter.
Me, I like to keep life simple.
So simply no ex's, whatsoever, for me!
Especially, (my husband just reminded me) when you are married to someone else!

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