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"Hey, I'll see you later. I'm going over to Jenny's house for a play date with the kids."
"OK. But when you get home I'll be over at Tom's house watching the game. And from there I have to go to the office to catch up on some paperwork for Monday."

I thought that when you get married, you married your friend. Before marriage it was "I can't Jenny I'm going out with Ted." Your friend complained because you were never around. You were always out with a boyfriend. Now you never see him; the love of your life. When you do, it's to argue over the bills and how a new car would be great to have to keep up with the "Jones". Mix kids in with the equation and the arguments pertain to little things because you are tired, strained and stressed.

So what happened? Priorities.

Job's are important, but what is more important than the all consuming job? The relationship you have with the most handsome or gorgeous babe in your life. Get rid of the house you can't afford which is causing you to work two or three jobs. Downsize your vehicle to a less monstrous size and payment. Because really what are you trying to prove?

Start sending "I love you" messages over the Internet or leave a brief message on your spouse's work phone. "I'm thinking of you" or "You're doing a great job providing for the family". Schedule to go on a date once a month. By the way, no conversation about work or money.

Shovel the walk together beneath a full moon or do dishes together with your lover's favorite music playing in the background. If in the case of swing shifts or dissimilar work schedules, make the effort to call on work breaks. If your spouse is too tired for household responsibilities, treat them to your own personal massage therapy. By the way, no conversation about all the bad things that happened to you during the day!

What is your spouse's favorite drink in the morning? Put it on their night stand before you leave for work. When they wake they will feel your touch even if it has to be reheated. For your handsome husband, place a pair of sexy underwear on the pillow next to him for a reminder of something special to come Try spraying a message of encouragement on the shower wall with shaving cream.

Most importantly, turn off your radio on your commute to work or home. Think of how you can be creative to show how much your lover, provider, and friend means to you. By the way, it's not about you.

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