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sex, and sex, as long as it's consensual, is a wonderful, fun activity. It's the drive that keeps earth's population climbing so drastically; it's not something we can control in others without employing chastity belts.

While we can't control our kids' sex drives, we CAN control their power: we can give them more of it, in the form of education. We can give young women and girls the power to choose not to get pregnant, to prevent abortion from becoming an issue as often as possible. Your young daughter most likely doesn't want to get pregnant any more than you want her to.

Even if you're going to keep up that whole "Sex is a Sin" charade - at least recognize that you still face two possible outcomes if your child has sex before marriage: a sinning child, or a sinning child with a child of his or her own.

Now, on to the other rule: don't date people of your own gender.

This is a heavy one; and to me, a Canadian, an obviously objectionable one. You see, there's nothing wrong with being gay (and no, I'm not gay myself; I'm what dear Fred Phelps would call a "fag enabler," though, and I'm proud of it).

The most interesting thing about homosexuality is that the facts about it undermine what have been our basic assumptions about it for a long time: we have assumed that it is a choice, and in assuming so, we have neglected both the power of genetics and the complexity of the drives of the human mind.

But I'm not going to go too far into the "choice" question, because the answer doesn't really matter. Although I doubt it is the case that a man's attraction to another man (just like my female attraction to a man) can be chosen or forced upon oneself, I'll assume for the sake of argument that it is; after all, no matter how a person is driven, that person can always choose his or her actions.

I'm arguing, here, that it's perfectly okay to even CHOOSE homosexuality, if that's your fancy (though I doubt it is for many - for most people, if not all, a crush is something that happens TO you, rather than being something you intentionally DO to yourself). Being gay, contrary to the beliefs of some Christians, is not sinful, wrong, harmful, or bad, nor is having gay sex with a gay partner, as long as protection is used. In fact, teaching people to suppress such urges in themselves is what's harmful. Denying oneself creates cognitive dissonance and confusion, it creates seemingly unexplainable frustration, it leads to emotional issues, depression, and self-loathing.

I have seen many

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