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Created on: February 08, 2008
In the beginning, God created a perfect heaven and earth. Everything that God brought into existence was created for the crown of his creation. On the 6th day, God brought the penult of creation into being, "God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created them, male and female he created them." (Genesis 1:27) Just like the rest of creation, God brought his highest creatures into this world for the purpose of being with one another. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." (Ephesians 5:31)
Therefore it is natural that males and females be attracted to one another. It is human nature. Unfortunately sin is also a part of human nature. "Just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all men, because all sinned " (Romans 5:12). There is no longer a perfect relationship between these two wonderful creations of God. This is evident in the wretched world surrounding us. Boyfriends hit their girlfriends. Wives cheat on their husbands. Teenagers have sex long before marriage. The world wants us to live in dirty debauchery and gross sexuality.
But thanks be to God. "Because the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin." (1 John 1:7) We no longer are doomed to hell and sin no longer controls us. Now through the power of the Holy Spirit, we do our best to please Jesus in everything that we do. We put on the full armor of God to combat our sinful nature.
The Bible gives young couples some wonderful tips. Paul says in 1Thessalonians 4:3 "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality." A wonderful way to do this is to completely stay away from temptation. The book of Proverbs states, "The lips of an adulteress drip honey. But in the end, she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword." (5:3,4) Solomon then gives us good advice "Keep to a path far from her; do not go near her path." (v.8) This has wonderful application for all sins. His advice is simple: steer clear of temptation.
This is especially important when it comes to sexual temptation. Our senses are easily aroused and hard to control. Then it is important that Christian couples foresee these problems and work to avoid the situations that our Old Adams will struggle with. Girls should not dress in a revealing manner. Being alone in the dark should be avoided at all times. A trusted adult should always be at home with the couple. A boy should respect his girlfriend and keep his hands to himself. The same should be true of his girlfriend.
There are also some things that a couple should do together to stay true to themselves and God. Every date should start and end with prayer. Not only should these prayers be personal, but they could also be between the two. A devotion or bible study during a date will also be beneficial. Choosing activities where many people are present also helps to control immorality. Group dates and activities would help to accomplish this too.
In the end young couples, should do as the apostle Paul says, "Live as children of light. For the fruit of light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth." (Ephesians 5:8,9) Do not go to the depths of despair if you slip up. For humans fail daily. Paul himself struggled, "For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do." (Romans 7:14) Instead, pick yourself up remembering that Jesus died for the sins of the whole world and continue to fight the good fight. May the Lord bless your efforts.
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