by Katie Lee

Created on: February 06, 2008

Sexy' like beauty is often in the eyes of the beholder so what makes a man sexy to one woman may not be true for another woman. For me, there are certain things I find irresistibly attractive in a man.

(1) Kindness and/or sensitivity. A man who isn't afraid of his own feelings and can empathize with others is extremely attractive to me. It shows me that he knows how to be attuned to the feelings of others including mine! I also find that as the world seems to be growing more chaotic and violent, a man who's kind and loving is that rare find that you should never let go of! And you'll know that if he's sensitive and kind, he'll be more accepting of your own flaws and shortcomings, and like Bridget Jones, don't we all just want a man to love us, just as we are'?

(2) Intelligence. I don't necessarily want a man who's a Mensa candidate, but I do want a man who's aware of his world and how things relate. Intelligence also means a man can carry a conversation in a fun, engaging manner because without intelligence, there is no wit, there is no humor, and there is no free exchange of information. A man with intelligence will be able to banter with you one moment, and discuss the really deep, intensely personal issues the next without missing a beat.

(3) Confidence. Not all men can be the pretty boy models' that we see in commercials and print ads but even a man who's not conventionally handsome' can be incredibly sexy if he carries himself with confidence. There's nothing sexier than a man who knows just what his strengths are and uses that knowledge to win you over.

(4) Commitment-ready. I'm not saying a man has to be ready to settle down the moment he meets me, cause honestly, that's a little scary/creepy. But a man who does not recoil at the thought of committing to a woman and creating a family with her is extremely attractive. A man who doesn't need a life coach' just to get him to THINK about the idea of marriage, a la Scott Baio, is heads and shoulders more attractive than the prettiest pretty boy.

(5) Understanding of what's important in life. This one is kind of a catch-all but a man's sexy when he's not always chasing after the mighty dollar' or working long hours because he'd rather be with you. A man who understands that sometimes, foreplay is more important than sex. A man who's willing to sometimes put his own needs second to that of his partner's. It's a man who knows that relationships are give-and-take and sometimes, things aren't always easy but that he's willing to do what's necessary to make things better. It's the mark of a man who values you, and there's nothing sexier than that.

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