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a cheating man, there will be a price to pay.

The loss of blind faith:

There will never be another time when those clues that he is cheating on you are placed in the back of your mind. They will be in the fore-front all the time. If the husband can't handle the reality of what he did to your faith, it may be too late to even try to stay.

On the other hand, if he understands that what he did will take time , and maybe the rest of his life to overcome, then maybe he can finally see why he needs to apologize a million times. He'll know why you need to know what he does every moment of the day. He'll realize why he can never stay out late at night. When trust is lost, he needs to see that he needs to earn it back.

The loss of the dream:

When a woman is betrayed by her Mr. Right, it's a horrible feeling. Everything she believed had come true was a lie. She needs time to let go of what might have been before she can move on, to what could be someday.

Re-writing history:

If you stay with a husband who cheated on you, you'll need to re-visit your history. Your mind will go back in time to see the reality through the view of betrayed eyes. That's why the anger arrives again and again, long after you've forgiven him. He can't understand why you can't get over it, because he doesn't see your history the way you do. He sees through a cheater's view, so he doesn't want to go back there again, when you have to.

You'll remember the time he had to work late and missed your kids Christmas play. The day will seem like yesterday, and once again, you'll feel betrayed.

Cheating men need to comprehend exactly what they did. Your husband can't justify the lie by refusing to see through your eyes. If he can't stand to go back there again, you may never get over , "the mistake."

Re-building your self esteem:

Some women build self esteem through the revenge of cheating. "I'll show him how it feels," is not a good way to heal. Once someone betrays someone they love, they have to live with the result. The scale will never be balanced enough.

You'll need to build your self esteem by focusing on yourself. Put all thoughts aside of that cheating guy and get on with your life. Whether you stay or leave, your skin will be the only body you'll always live in. Be wise and don't try to change what you will never have the power to change. Allow him to live with the consequence of his mistakes, and don't carry the burden for him. Women do this by re-living the image of cheating again and again. Try not

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