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Excuse me. Think about this. A family has a daddy and a momma, which is more than a father and a mother if we probe a little deeper. They are married of course. They say their vows before God, meaning to keep every word uttered. The husband prepares himself for the real world and the responsibilities that come with it. He becomes gainfully employed. He is the bread winner if you will. Although the wife may be educated, she is a domestic engineer, handling the duties of running a home. In this ideal world she doesn't work outside the home. Running a household correctly is twice the task of any job or career she may pursue outside the home. And then there are the children. Raising a child and meeting all of the needs, responsibilities and disciplines is a full-time job within a job. Are you still with me? Mind you this is what should have been for the family. On the surface anyway. But there is so much more to the family, even more to what would be called the ideal model. Those shortcuts cost so much more personally, financially, emotionally and otherwise, even for Chritians. Look it up or talk to anyone that knows what I'm talking 'bout. That was the old model and it was pretty insufficent. The model, well follow the story.

In the '70's when I was a teenager, a lot of the bad boys went after the good girls. The good girls were more than bluffed into relationships. The dare, the adventure and knowing you don't bring this one home was just too hard to turn down. Call it an old-fashion seduction. They started out as good girls, you know the girl next door, the one you bring home to meet the folk, but they made them their bad girls. Even back then, the good girls just seem to always like the troublemakers, the ones that offered them nothing but trouble. And they (the men) always seem to have a child or two from previous relationships they had forgotten about. Didn't matter. Even when they were playing the fool, still didn't matter . Even when they wanted to kick the habit, they just couldn't or didn't know how. Eventually they would shackup with the hope of marriage. They would bring up marriage again and again. Wait and see got old. They needed to know something. There was a couple of questions: "are we or are we not". And there was a simple answer: "yes or no." Of course she didn't get her answer in most cases and didn't have the last say.

The men always made both the questions and answer much harder than need be. The men would duck the issue over and over

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