by Ann Major

Created on: February 04, 2008   Last Updated: August 12, 2011

Long distance relationships are never feasible and never meant to be long-term. It takes special people and a special set of circumstances to make it work, but only for a short while. At the same time, nothing can compare to the anticipation, the excitement, the intensity, drama; and oh yes, the passion of a long distance romance! Each time you see one another is like the first time you fell in love. Who wouldn't want to keep their romance forever new and forever fresh, but at the same time, you start to want more permanency as the relationship either grows or goes south because of the time and distance spent traveling.

(This writer enjoyed every minute of her two-year long distance relationship where there were heady heights, and just as lowly and lonely times when one parted. Long-distance phone calls turned from one-hour talks into two; an evening; then into the wee hours; subject after subject, until the entire night had passed.)  Such is the draw of a long distance relationship.You make up for the lack of proximity and physical closeness. Those days, long distance was expensive. It became a problem, so many hours of long distance phone calls were no longer feasible.

To have a long distance romance one needs to be resourceful about one's time. Be prepared for a great deal of time spent going from one place to the other. Weekends and holidays consist of traveling, whether flying or by car. This bites into extra expenses normally not associated with romantic relationships in close distance. ( This writer's solution was meeting each other half-way, in the city of Syracuse, New York. By the time this long-distance relationship ended, every nook and cranny of New York State had been explored. Meetings were heavenly, and partings "such sweet sorrow". The butterflies of anticipation always ended with a empty feeling at the bottom of the stomach.)

Personally, this writer believes long distance relationships are meant to last. Not if you are not yet married. Not even if you are married, but various people have proven this writer wrong. Long distance relationships are physically wearing on a person's body. They are mentally and emotionally exhausting, as each parting is viewed as an abandonment of some sort. Not to mention extensive amounts of money spent in travel, hotels, food, and entertainment. At best, one not so productive at work, always missing the person one is not with.

After a limited amount of time, when one becomes disillusioned with the predicament,

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