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Those who are able to be asked this question and respond favorably have my highest regard and praise. I wish I could reply likewise. If everybody in the world were able to make a promise and keep it, not only to others, but themselves, our world would be a far more reliable place.
Yet those who have retained this ability are few and far between.

I suppose it isn't a difficult thing to do, if you remain realistic in the promises you make. If you set reasonable goals and desire to achieve the promise for yourself and remember why you made it in the first place, it becomes easier to follow. Like promising yourself to go to school everyday in order to graduate. It's a step by step process that, when followed, will bring you to your goal, and therefore have allowed you to keep a promise to yourself that has a purpose. Once you are able to accomplish a promise such as that to yourself, you are better able to repeat the same process and keep more promises to yourself within the same premise.

If, however, you make a promise to yourself that is done on a whim out of circumstancial situations without thinking it through completely, like promising not to drink ever again after you have had a heavy night of drinking and find yourself puking and hungover beyond belief, isn't realistic. Maybe not drinking as much, or within a reasonable limit is an attainable promise. Because the reason that you drank in the first place will most likely arise again, and a reason not to, will be long forgotten; the focus must be on a greater reason not to with a purpose that is fulfilling.

Personally, I find myself making promises that I want to keep at the time, with reasons that are logical, and find myself breaking them later. I spend so much time second guessing myself and using other kinds of reasoning in order to have a way out of my promise, in order to do what I want without guilt. Doing such, is only severely self-defeating and doesn't give me the stability that is necessary in my life to make promises and keep them. I am really only hurting myself.

It comes down to knowing yourself and being able to challenge your own abilities. Those that are able to keep promises to themselves learn to grow at a greater pace than those who don't. Granted that the promises made and kept have a purpose that makes their own life, and the lives of others, better. I wouldn't recommend a serial killer to keep promises to kill others. One must have faith in human nature and the belief in the betterment of mankind to create a world that we can all enjoy.

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