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Ladies, allow me to let you in on a secret. There is not much that compares to the feeling you get when you are an eligible single lady and a suitable man notices you and makes the first approach, especially if he is the same guy you have had your eye on for a while.

Even though this might sound absolutely ridiculous to you, it is something that makes you smile to yourself the entire day.

Women are emotional beings, and they absolutely adore romance. Many many times you hear them say that they wish that their guy could be more romantic than he is. So, if you are in the market for some loving, a man making the first approach is certainly exciting.

Many women tend to be old fashioned too when it comes to romance. It is always a wise choice to sit back and allow the man to come to you. This way you know for sure that the man does indeed have dating or a long term relationship on his mind.

Remember, men are the hunters. They are more or less simple and get right to the point.
They usually know what they want, go out and get it and they are done. On to the next thing on their list.

Men also know if they are out just for a fling or if they indeed have a long term relationship on their mind. If you watch their behavior when they see or meet a woman, you can usually tell which one of these they have in mind. Most times if you really listen to the way a man talks about women, you can also tell if he is a player or not. They usually do not mince words or feelings. If he tells you he is not interested in a long term or serious relationship, believe him.

The way he approaches you and what he says to you after he makes his move are the key indicators of both his personality and what he has in mind. Where you go to meet men also plays a part in the type of men you meet. This helps you decide if you want to make the initial approach, if you want them to approach you or if you prefer to avoid them altogether.

Another thing to keep in mind is what you want in a relationship. If you want marriage and children, do not bother to waste your time on players that just want to use you. If you want a casual fling that is up to you too.

So, should you decide you are not going to sit around for years just to see if your prince actually does show up, there is nothing wrong with making the first move ladies. It helps if you know the man as a friend first and have some sort of an idea about his love life and his approach to women. After all, if you go around approaching all sorts of strange men you could make an unsavory name for yourself.

If you have a slight idea that he indeed may be interested in you, but you know he is rather shy when it comes to affairs of the heart, he may just need a slight nudge in the right direction from you or a friend.

Otherwise he could take your friendship as just that, at face value, unless you give him some slight indication that you have something more in mind. Most of the longest lasting relationships have started out with both people being good friends. He might just feel safe enough to open up to you about many things if he knows he can trust you as a real friend.

Many men do not like to be rushed into a relationship. Some women have the tendency to come on too strong when approaching men. This is going to do nothing more than scare him away if he feels you are making too solid of an approach.

When you allow the man to come to you this puts everything out on the table. You know where he is coming from and you can respond appropriately.

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