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Asking out that special someone is the first step in having a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, once you get past that first "yes", the mere thought of having a first date with them can be terrifying. First dates can be beautifully romantic or horribly disastrous depending on the conversation that occurs. It is up to you to make your first date a successful one.

The main thing to remember on your first date is that this is the time to get to know each other. Questions such as "Where did you grow up?" or "Do you have any hobbies?" are relevant. A question such as "When is the last time you had sex?" is not. Asking relevant questions about the other person's life is an appropriate thing to do, but asking is not enough. Careful, active listening is also required. Nod to show that you are listening to what the other person has to say and ask questions based on his or her response. Your date will be appreciative that you are listening and appear interested.

Complimenting your date is always desired, but don't go overboard. Telling her that her eyes are beautiful or that you like her long hair are good compliments, but don't insert them at improper times, such as while she is trying to order her food. Blurting things out is never a good idea. Telling her that you like her tight pants or short skirt is not an appropriate compliment. You will come off seeming like a jerk.

A few well-timed compliments are useful, but over-complimenting can be dangerous. If you tell her every few seconds how beautiful she is and that you want her to have your babies, she might get that stalker vibe from you and make a hasty exit from the bathroom. (And who would blame her?) Keep the compliments to a number under 5 or 6 just to be safe.

When you are talking about yourself, be careful not to go on and on. Ladies, no one wants to hear you talk ten minutes about your cat. Watch your timing. If you have been talking about yourself throughout the entire first course, it's time to ask a question and shut up about yourself for a while. Discussing overly private subjects is not recommended. Don't talk about your ex, or ask her about hers. That's for another time and place.

End the evening with a compliment and a smile. Having good, thoughtful conversation throughout the date will make ending the date much more enjoyable. Hopefully he or she will consent to go out with you again.

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