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I think that anyone who screams to emphasize their point is out of control. The person who screams in the airline queue is sending out a signal of non compliance. They might just as well say, " I am not listening to you " They are bullying the recipient into listening to them whether they want to or not. When you scream, your words tend to come out thick and fast and it is easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment and say things that are difficult, if not impossible, to retract. When that screaming is directed at a child then it is even more guilty of bullying behavior. Not only are you a lot bigger than the child but you know more words and you are louder. We should teach our children to follow our example and treat them as we would like to be treated. There is nothing much worse than knowing that someone is not listening to you or valuing what you have to say. When you scream at a child you let yourself down. We, as adults, are supposed to be in charge, in control.We are their role models and if we scream and rant and rave then we are sending out the message that the way to get your own way is to scream the loudest. I have been a primary school teacher for a number of years and no matter how exasperated I am feeling I pride myself on not having to shout at my charges to get their attention. I make my expectations very clear at the beginning of every school year and rarely have a problem. I tell them that I refuse to shout to get their attention and if I have to ask them to stop (always in my normal speaking voice) more than once during, for instance, free play then they are obviously too loud and I make them owe me a minute of their playtime. If a child comes running towards me shouting about something I again ask them to stop and then in my calmest voice I say to them that I don't shout so please don't shout at me. As soon as you shout at a child you lose their attention and you have nowhere to go, they switch off. Added to this is the fact that shouting does the shouter no good at all either. Imagine what it does to your blood pressure and the length of your life! Keep calm and everyone will be happy.

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