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Imagine if will you, yourself in a position that is negative in many ways...you are overweight, you smoke, you have a hobby that you love but have no energy to get going from minute to minute. Does some outside influence help you to get it in gear and focus or have you no need for someone to stick their nose in your business? Let's say that you join a gym and you fully intend to go and workout three to four times a week. Is it more helpful for a friend, spouse, co-worker or family member to say "Hey, I thought you were supposed to go to the gym." Aren't you wasting money by not going to the gym?" Do you do better when you say to yourself? "Hey slacker get off of the couch and go to the gym?" "You are never going to lose weight by just thinking about it."

So how do you make it happen? There is no easy way to start and of course you need motivation. What puts the gas in your engine? I myself think I do better when I have a little bit of both as long as the outside forces are constructive. Let's face it, not everyone that calls themselves motivating you is truly interested on your self-improvements. I have family that check on my progress just to let me know that they knew I was going to fail and they just wanted to be there when I figured it out. I had to learn this and make it part of my self-motivation regimen. I simply said, you are going to do this and you are going to finish and when you do you will be all the better because of it. Self-motivation has become like a drug to me. I cannot truly let myself wait for someone else to tell me how great I am. I can't wait for someone else to tell me that I am looking better than ever. I can't wait for someone to boost me up and say "No you do not need that cigarette." Because when things get too ugly and I want that cigarette or slice of pecan pie nobody is going to hold me down. I am an adult and if I want to achieve my goals, I have to do it because it's my choice and not someone else's desire.

I guess long and short, I prefer self motivation for my part. Outside motivation is great but, I can't always trust that it is genuine. I also know that life is not so much a trip as it is a journey and I am still learning that in order to become the perfect being I want to become I have to trust myself to be my own motivator and listen when I tell myself to move.

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