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Do you often have sex with one person while thinking about another?

by Ms. Dee

Believe it or not, but it has happen to me numerous times. I do not know why I do but it just happens. Could it be that I really want to have sex with the man that I am thinking about and not the one I am having sex with? Is something wrong with me for thinking about another man in the mists of sex with someone else? I really do not know; these are questions I cannot answer. I wish I did have the answer to these questions; maybe then I would know why I have a wondering mind, thinking about another man while having sex with someone else.

The man I am thinking about while having sex with another, why him? Could it be deep down he is the man that I truly want to be with? I do not know, but subconsciously I am thinking of him as the man I am really having sex. Is it cruel of me or is something seriously wrong with me? Questions, all these questions I have without answers. If I could just set down and think about why I have a wondering mind while having sex. I wonder if it is because the man I am having sex with is not pleasuring me the way I want to be pleasure. Is he not hitting the right spots? Or am I just bored with sex itself? Could that be the cause of my wondering mind?

The man I am having sex with he do not know I am not completely focus on him. Is it selfish of me not to tell him that on some level in my mind I was imagining that I was having sex with another man not him? Is it cruel? Is it unforgiving? Or is it selfish of me to tell or not to tell him what I am truly thinking? How would it make him feel to know this? Would he question his sexual expertise because of me?

What if the man I am having sex with is thinking about another woman while having sex with me? Oh my! I would be devastated, what is wrong with me? I do not have the sex appeal to keep you focus on me. I do not want to have sex with a man who has a wandering mind, thinking of another woman while we are having sex. Is he comparing the sexual things I do in bed with what he has experience with the other woman? How am I suppose to feel, inexperience? I do not know; I thought I could hold my own when it comes to pleasing a man sexually. Now I would constantly question myself, is the more I could have done? Should I do research on ways to pleasure a man to the point all he can think about is what I am doing to him? I would constantly wonder what to expect next.

You know what would be really outrageous; what if the man I was having sex with was thinking about another man. I know that is totally


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