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be too heavy because you don't know each other well enough yet to delve into the dark recesses of each others minds, unless of course your date leads you in that direction.

Depending upon what your date involves there is usually some money that needs to be spent stop sniggering you filthy minded fool; I was referring to paying for a meal, taxi or cinema, not dessert', or coming up for coffee'. If you're the man it's not a bad idea when arranging the date to say "This will be my treat, so leave you money at home." That way you've already avoided the awkward, "I'll pay", "no it's OK, I'll pay half" conversation at the end of the night. Much better to get it out of the way before hand.

So, you've had a great night with no horrifying moments of catatonic silence. You've openly chatted about the positive things your date has done in their life and wants to do with their life and you're now on your way home. There's one more obstacle to overcome seeing the woman to the door. How this bit pans out is largely based on how the rest of the evening went, but if you are the man and in any kind of doubt over what to do here, then here's my suggestion. Thank your date for a wonderful night and tell her you'll call her (only say this if you mean it!). Slowly lean in to give her a kiss on the cheek, making it clear that you're going for the cheek by tilting your head to the side. If you're the woman then it's simply up to you if you want to invite them up for coffee. And at this point if you really do mean coffee it's probably worth making a joke out of it and saying "but I do just mean coffee OK!", perhaps wagging your finger for extra emphasis.

I have left just one small detail out of this whole plan of attack how does it work if you're both gay? I really don't know the etiquette there I'm afraid, but good luck to you.

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