by candydro

Created on: January 31, 2008

First I would like to say that I love the working man, mostly mine, but you do need to set aside some time for your wifey. Family life balances with everything in our lives and it's hard to see that when you in tunnel vision project mode. My man gets this all the time and quite honestly he doesn't really have a job that has projects per say mostly tasks. He is really into those tasks though. So much so that he's usually in project mode. When he's not at work he's working on a project at home even when I designate my days off so I can spend some time with him. It drives me crazy but I love him.

I have found a few ways to spend more time with him to try and keep him grounded. I do have to admit some are a bit drastic for me but when you miss someone so much you'll do almost anything. The first thing I did was I switched from my retail job where I was working until ten o'clock at night or later most of the time to a work at home job so I am always here when he is and I still get to contribute. It gives me more time to relearn my cooking skills I sort of lost them when I was at work and eating out most of the time. This had to be the most drastic move of all but it was worth it. No more jealous questions of where was I so late and who was working with me when he knew all the answers all ready since I talked to him the entire time I was closing the store on speaker phone. He was so worried about not seeing me very often that he thought I felt neglected and I would try to see other people. I never did I was and am very happy with the one that I have.

The next thing I have learned to do is support his projects in whatever way possible. He has a band I make the fliers and take their pictures. I would take them food but I'm still learning I don't want to be the cause of practice being canceled early. We go out every Sunday and I critique a few things since I sang for a while they respect my opinions.

Finally I make him sit down for dinner and watch at least one show together in the evening so we can have some down time together. Even just sitting can bring you closer together and you don't have to say anything. It's just nice and peaceful and I get to see him for a while not running around doing something. Not to mention it keeps him out of trouble since he has a habit of doing things just for the sake of doing something not really because it needs to be done and if it's not a planned project he'll have to go out and spend more money on something we didn't really need to do in the beginning.

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