Crossing Gender Boundaries

Trying to find the Psychological, spiritual, and emotional viewpoint of man wound up being harder than I thought it would be. Trying to figure the same for woman was almost as difficult, although for a completely different reasons. I found the males I talked to where somewhat apprehensive, suspicious, and even sarcastic, as one friend returned the question with a hearty " whats your viewpoint, Nancyboy?" The woman I asked where just the opposite. I couldn't get them to shut up. At first there was hesitation, as if they where wondering what new "Mr sympathetic ear" approach is he trying to pull on me now. Then, when I explained the origin of the question, they where more than willing to oblige..and oblige ...and oblige.

It was here I made my first distinction. Men, when asked a question of a personal nature tend to be very closed, almost in denial of their sensual self. Where as woman were more apt to share, almost appreciative of the opportunity. In the end though the results where quite similar. Both sexes wanted peace of mind, of one sort or the other. Both at times questioned their own motives, and wondered if they where living a rational life. And both wanted to be liked, loved, appreciated, and understood by their peers. And neither was absolutely sure what the other sex wanted.Both are emotional creatures, though the male tends to hold in or hide his emotions, while the female is more upfront and vocal of hers. It is for this reason a communication gap exists between the two sexes. Emotions are one of the attributes that separate us from the rest of the animals, but wind up tripping us up at times due to mixed signals, misinterpretation,or inner fears.

I really couldn't get a serious answer from the men I asked, so I thought about it. What do men really want? I cant answer for the average man, simply because I don't think I fit that category. Not that I'm above, or below average. I'm left handed! I tend to look at things different than the right handed world. Plus the fact I am in recovery and spent a good portion of my life not knowing what I was thinking.

When I asked myself the questions, I couldn't answer them right off. Spiritually? I'm spiritual, I guess!? I had to look up the word to be sure. And I know for a fact that I fit one of those definitions, maybe a few depending on the weather. Psychologically, hey, I'm a frickin' head case, but thats how I stay sane. And emotionally, well I cried when ol' Yeller

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