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CHALLENGING MEN ARE SEXY

Women, for some unknown reason, are attracted to guys who don't give a damn, guys who don't call, and guys who don't try. This is precisely the guy whom women will be flurrying around in a club or party-like a herd of hungry cattle. No, he doesn't need to be good looking, but he does need to be unresponsive to our advances, our fluttering eyelashes.

I remember asking a male friend of mine what his secret was. He had all of these gorgeous women who wanted to be with him, and yet the same women were rejecting other guys. "I don't care either way." He told me. "I'm really not interested in any of them."

At the time I considered his response arrogant, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized it was true. These sort of "I don't give a damn" guys send out energy, a strong scent of masculinity, something that hits women between the eyes. Suddenly that guy becomes someone we want to pursue and bite and claw. MEEEOW.

And the more he doesn't notice us, the more we desire him. I wonder what Mr. Freud would say about this contradiction? I mean, why would we want a guy who doesn't give us the time of day? Why would we want to suffer like that? I'll tell you why, because he's mysterious as hell. And we're wondering what he kisses like, what his secrets are, but more than that, why he's not interested in us, because we are severely stunning and intellectually brilliant.

"Does your head hurt, baby?" A guy asked me at Planet Hollywood, lifting his eyebrows up and down like Groucho Marx. "Cause I would imagine you just fell down from heaven." Are you serious?

Presumably, this guy was not only by rejected by me that evening, but by other females, who smiled politely, and then considered him unoriginal, anxious, and without imagination. Or what about the line "Are you a model?" Clich and overused. Boooring.

A guy friend of mine asked, "Why do girls like the bad boys, you know, like Brad Pitt from Legends of the Fall?" The concern in his face was sincere. Why Pitt and not the good guy?"

"It's the challenge, I guess," I answered. "It's the excitement of the hunt."

"Explain." My friend said.

"It's all a game, and if the games too easy, we don't want to play, see? Pitt was complex, interesting, emotionally unavailable, and didn't give a damn. For us, the difficult game is more stimulating and sexy. For us, we want the untamed guy on the stallion- galloping with his hair flowing in the wind, not the guy sitting at the foot of our feet.

*ALERT: * The emotionally unavailable, apathetic guy will be sought after, flirted with, ruthlessly adored, and lusted after by several women. He will be dated, admired, and bedded, but only to that degree. This guys days are numbered.

-Because in the end, we will eventually marry the nice guy. You weren't expecting that, were you?

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