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A grieving person is similar to a lost child. How can we possibly expect a lost child to make financial decisions, let alone any decision. I know this because I recently lost my dear aunt to a brain stroke. It was a sudden death and I saw first hand what it did to her husband. Its been 8 months and he is still in the recovery process. However I remember when it had happened he couldn't even answer our simple questions. His two eldest sons took over and made the decisions for him. It was very difficult since otherwise he would have to decide on a funeral home, a coffin and etc.. All my uncle wanted to do was to be left alone. But it is not wise to leave a grieving person alone at any given moment. It is always wise to keep him or her busy with other family members, and if possible keep children around them. It sounds silly but children tend to fill a grieving soul with life and energy.

It is a proved therapy for people in depression. Children tend to do silly things and attract the person towards them. No matter how silly, it will make the grieving person laugh. Because i a way children are the opposite of death. They remind people of their young times. I know this because the only reason my uncle is recovering so fast is because his daughter with her two children (3 and 2) have moved in with him. He is no longer alone and no longer sits at the couch to stare at the empty spot next to him. Rather he has his grand children laughing and smiling in front of him.

Still when someone looses someone so close the mind tends to make crazy decisions. The person most of the times doesn't even realize that he or she needs to eat to stay normal. They just sit and remember the lost one. That is the grieving process. At such a stage of mind one can not make any decisions. If close relatives are not available to help out in making such decisions, than friends should definitely step in and take over. At this point whatever decision they make will be without any reasoning and will not turn out beneficial.

We need to realize that the person has just suffered a huge loss and cannot be expected to function as other do in normal circumstances. It is a sad time for them and we need to be there to take care of them. Part of that is making decisions for them, yes even a financial decision.

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