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of that world when each person realizes the great potential within and when we all feel safe enough, no brave enough to love one another knowing we can be hurt trying. I have brought that child into this world, but that child has returned parts of me I had completely forgotten existed within me.

I am no longer trying to "win" the "fight" in conversation with anyone, now I simply want to hear what you think, know what you know, see how you see. I want to meet you and not try to "fix" anything. I just want to be here. It is the tool I use in my divorce. No heavy hammers. No slander. No anger,violence or hurtful gouging in places only intimately involved people can touch.

Now, I view my relationship with my daughters' father with my heart and treat it as if it were a jewel, like a rose quartz. I polish it daily and when I am not polishing it I keep it tucked safely on pillow in a container where I have mentally placed on it decorations of lotus flowers painted with moonlight.

All three of us, myself, my daughter and my ex-husband, work hard contributing in our particular ways to enhance our individual gifts and open our hearts more when we struggle with one thing over another simply because we're human. And though we all live in worlds from different levels of consciousness that fact remains.

For one to rise above ego (and blaming others) and all this physically manifested world has to offer one should find the desire make the best effort one can in recognizing the innate ability to choose peace over pain, then, all you have to do is take action on it everyday, every minute of every day! Every painstaking second in each minute will become devoted until it becomes as easy to love, as it was to pass judgment (also known as it's just my opinion').

Divorce does not have to be painful, we just have to be the one that let's go of our gaurds first and ride through the pain of the other partner thinking we are weak. Eventually, in time, it can work in situations where both parties see not only is it best for the child but its best for themselves and for every other person they come in contact with for the rest of their lives.

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