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What makes a man "datable"? That's quite a question!
Especially given the fact that just like we all have a unique set of fingerprints, no two women on earth are looking for the exact same type, which, in a way is a blessing. While we are all looking for something different, there are a few basic qualities any woman would look for in a man to date. Let me suggest but a few of them:

1- IS HE HONEST?
Honesty is the basis of trust. Trust is the premise of any healthy relationship. No lies, no stabbing-in-the-back situations. He's honest towards himself, towards you and towards others. There are no attempts to cover things up, he's straightforward and even though it can be hard to swallow at times, you know what to expect. You know what he loves you for and you feel more secure because there are no surprises.

2- IS HE FAITHFUL?
You sure wouldn't want your date to leave you as soon as he sees a prettier girl around... would you?

3- IS HE OPEN MINDED AND RESPECTFUL?
An open mind leads to respect. A man who respects you and keeps an open mind even if he doesn't understand you fully is more likely to maintain a strong relationship with you. Respect is the basis of all healthy loving relationship. Love without respect is not enough. You can love your cat without necessarily respecting it. While that's okay with the cat as long as you feed it, a woman needs to feel that what she says or feels really counts and that she is respected even when there is a disagreement.

4- IS HE A GOOD LISTENER?
Women love to talk. Women talk about anything: from a dentist appointment which went bad to picking the proper color for toenail painting, whether it is a small incident or a major life crisis, women talk. That's how they let out steam, that's how they sort things out, that's how they heal. A man who is able to listen can provide all the support needed to get over a crisis even if he doesn't say anything. Being heard definitely gives you the comforting feeling that you are not alone and in a relationship, you shouldn't feel alone.

5- IS HE EMOTIONALLY STRONG?
You are picking out a man to DATE. Not a KID to RAISE. Every woman has a mother instinct. While this instinct is amazing when it comes to raising a child, it is disastrous when it comes to picking a date. A woman can be drawn to a man's weakness because it makes her feel like a savior. But a man who is emotionally unbalanced is not a good date for the simple reason that you will be his psychologist or his mother... never his partner. Are you sure you want to get into that?

6- IS THERE ANY ATTRACTION?
Gee, why bother mentioning that one? Isn't that the reason you've been considering to go out with the guy in the first place? Well, attraction isn't only a matter of appearance and body build. There is no use going out with a guy just because he's 6 feet tall and has blue eyes. attraction has to be something slightly more subtle than physical compatibility. The best way to sort that out is to limit the physical part of the relationship at first. Talk about things, check what his character is like... then decide if you want this to go any further.

7- DOES HE COMPLETE YOU?
You make a good team. His strengths are your weaknesses and your strengths are his weaknesses. You are not opposite to each other but you complete and help each other. There is room for growth and harmony...

These are a but a few very basic traits to look for in a potential man to date. Of course there are thousands of details which come into play when it comes to pick a date.

Just remember:

MR PERFECT DOES NOT EXIST!

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