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If you are a first time parent, the changes that a new baby brings to your priorities are substantial. Though challenging, these changes do not mean that your world is at an end. It just means it's time to prepare for the adventure that lies before you.

The first priority that will change will probably be how you spend your time. Take the word "spontaneous" from your vocabulary. The activities most pre-parents are familiar with-spur of the moment weekend getaway plans, going to the movies at the last moment, or going out to eat because you didn't have time to cook dinner-will be the first to go. Don't worry. You can still do those things, but making a plan is in order. So, schedule some private time with your spouse. Ask a family member or trusted friend to exercise their child caring talents. Consider hiring a babysitter if you are mentally ready to leave your baby with a non-family member.

As a new mother, it was difficult for me to leave my first child with anyone. Going out to eat, or to a movie, or a weekend getaway became a distant memory for my husband and I at first. Our priority changed in a way that kept us home with the baby and we were okay with that.

How you spend your money will certainly be another priority change. Gone are the days of freely blowing money on eating out or ordering in, buying new clothes, shoes, Mary Kay, designer handbags and wallets, video games, computer software, getting your hair done, etc... The idea of this may make you cringe, but once you know that the baby is on the way, you won't see this as a lost. The excitement of the new little one you will meet in 9 months will be all that matters. You'll get caught up in getting the baby's room ready by purchasing a crib and a crib mattress, changing table, and other types of baby furniture. You will think nothing of buying the cutest little baby clothes and the warmest baby blankets.

My husband and I had so much fun decorating the baby's room. It was bonding time for us because we were embarking on yet another journey with one another. The time was special. With a child on the way, we knew our lives would be different from now on, so, every private moment between us was precious.

Since you will be spending money, budget is the most important priority change. It would be in your best interest to have one. This may seem elementary to most, but for some, having a budget may be an issue. I can't stress enough to have a budget. You'll want to buy every amenity for the baby's room and you can. Plan your spending. If at all possible, start early and buy furniture a piece at a time. This will alleviate a lot of stress. Also stock up on baby wipes. Buy a couple of packages of diapers much later in your pregnancy when you have some idea of your baby's size.

All the other things you once spent money on don't have to necessarily stop. Again, budget and you will always be able to purchase the things you want and need.

Having a baby will definitely change some priorities. Overall, however, those priority changes will be for the best. Parenthood is not an ending. It's the beginning of a new, wonderful, challenging, and invigorating phase of your life.

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