So your baby is having a baby, for many parents this is the biggest shock of their lives. I even knew someone who when they found out their 16 year old was going to be a mother, the girls father had a heart attack. Dealing with this situation is one that many parents hope to avoid, but if so problem does arise, DO NOT SCOLD, this could permanantly stop your daughter from comming to you for help. She did the first hard part all by herself. She came to you at her biggest time of need. Scared and confused of what to do, she made the first right choice since the incident happened. Yelling could cause your teen to make rash descions, she may even try running away, because she knows how dissapointed in her you are.

The main thing for a parent of a teen mom should do is be supportive, No matter how hard it is. Tears will fall, and dissapointments are highly likely, but it will all work out in the end. Be sure to tell your daughter of all her options. Like adoption, keeping the baby or even abortion if you are for that. Tell her that things will be hard, but don't TRY to scare her, be sure to let her know what her body is about to go through and the changes she faces. If your daughter is in school, tell her not to be afraid to keep with it. I knew a girl who stayed in school all the way through her pregnancy and she gave birth to her beautiful son on her graduation day. Try not to let your daughter drop out, that is the biggest mistake that she will make. She needs to stay in school, let her know that finishing the school will make her feel more like a normal kid again. Sure she may have morning sickness in math class, but she will still be with the friends she knows and loves. She may loose some friends, but the true friends will be there begging her to let them be the god parent of the child. Also the girl that I knew said overcomming school while pregnant made her feel like she could still go to college once the baby is born. It made her feel like she was able to over come any obsticle that was given to her.

Do not let your daughter fall into a state of depression, try to keep her as happy as she can. Im not saying to be the first one to throw her a baby shower, because you don't want to be rewarding her for the baby you just want to be supportive. Offer to babysit the baby if your daughter decides to go to college or any school.

Im sure your daughter knows she's in for a hard time, but if she needs your help, DO NOT DENY her of it. Be there for her, because no matter what you are still her mother. Help her to prepare for the birth of your grand daughter, it may not seem like the right time, but you are blessed.

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