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Marriage the oldest institution in the world and the most enduring. No matter how much we may argue, pretend and try to convince ourselves otherwise love remains the ultimate experience you can share with another human being and marriage remains the ultimate expression of this experience.

Finding the right partner starts with finding yourself. Knowing yourself, embracing yourself, being yourself and loving yourself empowers you to relate with others respectfully, sincerely and lovingly.

The earlier you start taking responsibility for your life the sooner you will be ready for marriage. These days, marriage has been made 'easy' - feel like getting married? Sure, why not? Feel like you don't want to be married anymore? Cool, get out - very easy right? So why do we still crave marriage? Why do we still envy happily married couples? It's easy to tell why - when partaken of correctly, marriage can be heaven! Not that there wont be good and bad days, but that in the face of any challenge you are not alone and you can count on 100% commitment form someone whom you know, respect and trust.

Once you know who you are not afraid of being yourself, you will attract people who will complement (or complete as is used nowadays) you. Being real feeds true relationships so that doubts are minimized and time and effort are wasted in excessive trial and errors.

1. Your partner accepts you for who you are (and vice versa); not just in words but in action as well (and more importantly). There is no acting or falsehood between you; what you see is what you get and you both know what you're dealing with.

2. Your partner is genuinely interested and actively involved in helping you be the best you can be (and vice versa). Everybody wants to progress, but it takes love to also accept and foster another persons growth and development. It means you are content in yourself and can appreciate other's successes so that envy and unhealthy rivalry is counted out.

3. There are minimal behavioral fluctuations. Both you and your partner behave the same way most of the time. This way you can predict each other's reactions and the relationship is largely stable - no nasty surprises.

4. You both have the same basic beliefs - religious, political, etc. Even where they may differences, they should not be conflicting but rather just different.

5. You are willing, able and committed to get married (very important). Marriage is all about commitment. Two people can love each other but must not get married unless they are ready to go all the way. Betrayal is a very hurtful thing for anyone to deal with.

6. You are both willing and able to forgive 'anything'. No one is perfect; even perfect people co-exist with imperfect ones. The true test of love, some say, is forgiveness.

7. Communication. You must both be satisfied with each other's style and level of communication. If anything is bothering you, you must be able to speak up. No need to be rude, accusing, insulting or derogatory though; just say what is on your mind.

8. "1 do".

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