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Allow my baby to cry to get to sleep.... No, I don't think so.
And I have thought over the question.

If the baby cries just a little, I mean less than one minute, I feel it is okay. It is just his way to tell us "why should I go to bed, I was feeling so well in your arms ?"....
Then baby goes to sleep and everything is okay.

But, by experience, I will say that if your baby is crying while he should sleep, it means there is something "wrong". The more young your baby is the more certain is that if he cries, there is something bothering him.

You should go, have a look at him, take him in your arms and just talk a little with him. If he calms down, you can try again to put him in his bed... usually, baby don't cry for nothing. They can even cry to release their stress and bad feelings. And I do talk about young babies, after 2 years old, it gets different depending on family uses, situation and the baby's character.

Baby cannot get good sleep if he gets his sleep while crying all he can. And good sleep is very very important, not only for us, but for baby for sure.

I have tried many different ways to put my babies to bed and most of the time I was surprised how easily it can be when you listen to your baby. But I know that often we do not have the needed time to listen to him. And that doesn't mean we are bad parents, just that life is hard with everybody!

I have tried to put my baby to bed, to let him cry as much as I could handle, ... it didn't work, or maybe once but I wasn't feeling right and when he woke up, I feel he was still tired.

I have tried to keep him in my arms, walking from right to left, singing a song or doing some other noises, ... it didn't work a lot better, ... baby feels asleep, I put him in his bed, get out of the room, and.... baby cries even more, ...

And then I decided to try easiest ways, not getting any stress about how my baby is going to get his sleep...

And it did work. Not all the time, not in all situations and not for each of my babies, but it did work well.

During the first 10 months of his life, during the day, baby was getting his sleep anywhere in the house, surrounding by the other members of the family, listening to the sounds of the family's life. And I could see and feel that baby was alright. ... And then, at night, baby was going to his bed with less troubles and with almost no cries.

Then, when baby grows up, it was different. Depending on how the day went on, what kind of things we had done,.. I had to keep an eye on baby and feel when is the time to go to bed. It is easier if it is the right time for him. And, if we had stayed all day at home, almost doing nothing "tiring", I will put baby in his bath, having fun for 20 minutes or some, feed him and then... bedtime. It works most of the time.

But there are always babies that prefer to sleep with their parents in sight, or with the light on, or surrounded by noises or music, ... it is not always easy to find the right way, but life 's like that, isn't it ?

wish you all the best....

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