by Trisha Lewis

Created on: January 22, 2008

Being a grandparent can be a great joy in life. You want to make sure that your granchild is the happiest tat it can be. You want to be apart of their little world apart of their life.

They make you smile by the little things that they do. Even when they are little and they are cooing up at you or they even to blow bubbles at you. When they are small and they already know how to draw and write a little bit and they make you a card on your sick day and it's filled with smiley faces that say Grandma I love you.

You want the world for your grandchildren you want to give them anything and everything. So, I can only imagine how hard it is when you see them throwing a temper tantrum over something they want which is either normally a candy or a toy and their mom says no. Sometimes you want to scoop them up and hold them in your arms and get them that little thing they want. Then you look up to the parents who then are giving you a sour look that shows you that you have done a wrong thing.

Sometimes it is good to find out why that parent did not want to give them that specific toy or candy. Candy, maybe the reason because they have not had dinner yet and they will spoil it. Another reason, is that parents don't want to have their child bouncing off the walls because they just had candy.

Sometimes you have to look behind the reason of the tantrum and go from there. Sometimes also, it may not be good to give into a tantrum. Because if you do give into a tantrum then the child will believe that oh, all I have to do is act like this and I can get whatever I want.

Dealing with tantrums can be hard, but how to deal with it is by ignoring it and walking away. That can be the hardest thing to do. If you are in the comforts of your home. If you leave them alone for awhile, they will eventually get tired and either fall asleep or start playing with their toys.

If you are in the store with them and they have a tantrum you can tell them you said no or mommy said no. If they continue to have a tantrum then if possible you can take them outside to the car and stay until they finish crying or if you can't place them in the cart and continue to let them cry. Once again they will eventually stop crying once they see that you are not giving in.

You have to tough as nails, but as sweet as sugar. Don't give in. Each day you see your grandchild you tell yourself "I'm sweet as sugar and tough as nails. I will not give in."

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