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Your child has finally left the nest to start their own lives. In a way you are happy for them and can't wait to see what type of life will they lead. Will they get married, have kids, or even have a career that they love and have always dreamed of.

Many parents even after they're children have grown up and moved out still want to watch every step that they're child makes. Hoping that they will not slip and fall and make the same mistakes that you have made. So then you want to guide them through their lives when they are gone.

Its time to place yourself in a certain mindset. It's time to let go and to remember that you have taught your kids everything that they need to know. Like looking both ways before crossing the street, don't trust people you just met and don't talk to strangers. Stuff like that.

Now that your child has grown into an adult maybe they have moved off to college, or just moved out on their own. You have to let them go eventually. Have your mind set that maybe just maybe they didn't listen to you when you were telling them things, but have your mind set that they may listen to your advice. Now like you or maybe not like you your adult children are always going to make at least one mistake in their lives. This will help them learn and see that they knew you were right and also, it will help them grow.

You can't stand beside your adult child and hold their hand every step of their lives. Although I believe that many parents wish they could. If you go throughout their lives holding their hands what will they do when you are not around (god forbid.) Then they won't know what they will need to do to handle certain situations. You can't walk into their bosses office and demand that they not fire them after they have missed practically a month of work. You can't just do something like that. You have to let them fight their own battles. Also, you can't write letters to your childs boss telling them that little Susie will not be in today because she has the flue. Do you know how embarrassing that would be. Their boss would think that man, this person I hired is not responsible enough because they need their parents to fight all their battles and even write them a sick letter.

It's time to let your adult child grow up. I know it may be hard, but once your child steps out of your house, you can't parent them any more. This is a time that you hope and pray that your children actually listened to your advice and take it and run with it. Don't be an M & M's (Meddling Mom.)

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