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Divorce attorneys and personal injury attorneys operate on the same principle: somebody got hurt, and now they want the situation remedied. When you've had enough, you're going to make the call - but how do you know when you've reached the point of no return?

It's not as black-and-white as it should be. So many factors are involved, and the ultimate decision lies in your hands. Sometimes enough in one area isn't enough in another; you've got to decide what your personal breaking point is, and then you've got to stick to it.

GENERAL UNHAPPINESS
You've got that awful feeling; something just isn't right. Maybe you're not doing things together any more, or your views on common interests aren't the same. If you can work with these things by pursuing your own interests, by all means, do so! However, if they're causing irreparable rifts in your relationship, it's time to consider moving on.

FIGHTING
Everyone fights. Some people fight dirty, and some people follow the unwritten rules of "couple fighting." Either way, if the fighting overshadows the good times, and it happens much more frequently than it should, it might be time to go your separate ways.

If fighting ever gets physical - even once - it's time to head for the hills. Physical doesn't just mean actually hitting each other, either - it means throwing things, breaking things, and sabotaging the other person's attempts to leave.

DEAL BREAKERS
Cheating and lying are the ultimate deal-breakers. If someone cheats on you, chances are that they will do it again. Even if they don't do it again, will you be able to forget about it? Probably not - and that's not what you want to be thinking about all the time. You may forgive it, but you'll never forget it; it will pop into your head at the most inopportune times. Additionally, every time your significant other has to work late, runs out for a bite to eat, or hangs out with friends, you'll be left wondering if they're up to their old tricks.

Lying is a big no-no. One lie can shatter an entire relationship - and a good relationship is based on trust. You'll find yourself questioning everything they say from that point on, and you'll probably argue about it as a result. They may never have any intention of lying to you again, but if they think it will get them out of the hot seat, they'll probably do it anyway.

When things combine and culminate into your unhappiness, it's time to pull the plug on your relationship. Everyone has a different boiling point, but you may not want to wait around until you reach yours. It's important to know that you deserve to be happy, and if your current flame isn't much more than an ember in the fireplace, it's time to find a new match to get things kindled again.

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