by Christina Rivas

Created on: January 21, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

This for me is a very hard question at times. There are days when I wake up feeling like I have the world's greatest husband and then there are days when I honestly can't stand to be in the same room as him.

Marriage is not easy, it takes hard work, communication and understanding. One of the most important factors in a marriage to me, is compromising, unfortunately it is sometimes also the most difficult factor to keep in mind as well.

I do love my husband very much, I have never questioned that, however I also hate him very much at times as well. I know that part of the reason that I feel this way is because real marriage is very different from how I pictured it would be when I was younger.

I used to imagine that marriage would make my life perfect, I would marry my knight in shinning armor, have children and live happily ever after. Real life however is often as far from that as one can possibly imagine.

Things are never perfect, in fact it is my belief that whoever invented the word perfect was seriously deluded on the concept of life. There is no such thing as perfect, things have a way of going differently then what we imagine and sometimes this is enough to make any one depressed.

Despite our best intentions, my husband and I disagree allot, we disagree on certain things and because we are both so stubborn, we sometimes forget that it is okay to have a difference of opinion.

What is not okay however is when we make each other feel stupid because of those differences. Sometimes my husband and I have a serious problem remembering and trying to understand that concept.

Another thing that makes me question if I have had enough of this marriage, is when my husband makes me feel as though he does not appreciate me or the things that I do for him and our family in our home.

A great example of this happened very recently, I had woken up at around 7 in the morning and I decided to try to do something nice. I spent the entire day cleaning my house from top to bottom.

I cleaned my living room till it was spotless, which is no easy task if you consider that I have two young children and a mountain of toys which they seem to love spreading all over the floor in the house.

Once I had finished that I decided that I would tackle the kitchen next. I washed all the dishes and put them away and when I was finished cleaning I took something out of the freezer for dinner so that I could have a nice hot meal waiting for him when he came home from work.

I then decided that it wasn't

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