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back for that yet. And all I hear from my step mother is how I don't help out enough!

That's another thing that makes this so difficult. My step mother and I have a decent relationship...when we're not living together. Ok, I understand it's her house, so her rules, but when it comes to my kids, it's MY kids, MY rules. Something she likes to ignore. Frequently she will intrude upon my parental duties and just try to take over. Supper, bath time, bed time, homework time, and even discipline time. That's the worst one, though. If I discipline my kids, she feels she has to intrude and put her two cents in. She tries to act all mean and tough with them, as she does with everyone around her. She's one of those that like to puff themselves up to some big, grand idea of a "bad-ass" and then you never see her back it up. She treats everyone like a child, including my dad. I understand being concerned for him after all the issues he's had with his heart and the diabetes, but if he's gone 5 minutes longer than she thinks he should have been, she's calling him to find out if he's ok. When he's home, she's constantly asking him if he's alright, will insist he look her in the eyes so she can tell what's going on with him. If he groans, sighs, yawns, whatever, she's on him like flies on a cow patty. As for how she is with me, she feels the need to remind me to do everything. Shut off lights, bring up dirty dishes from the basement (my hidey-hole), bring clothes up for the kids' baths (as if she cant find them or the kids cant get them themselves), appointments that have nothing to do with me or my kids, etc etc.

It's difficult living with your parents when you're a parent yourself. Sometimes your parents don't want to admit that you're the adult now, too. There's little you can do about it, but be patient and try to do everything you can to get back on your feet. That day is coming for me soon. I'll always appreciate them taking us in when we needed a place to go. I just know that no matter what happens in the future, I will not find myself living in this situation ever again.

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