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Well, from my personal experience, parenthood does change priorities quite a bit, especially with an unplanned child. I got married when I was 17, and no, not because I was pregnant. My husband and I had discussed children, but we were going to wait until "the time was right", when we had our house paid for, a little bit of savings, and so forth.

Well, that was not the case. After we had been married for a little over a year I had a motorcycle accident and the Dr. put me on antibiotics. Now, I do know that some antibiotics, I do not know if it is actually all of them, can counter you birth control, and usually the Dr. will tell you if they will and suggest that you use condoms while on antibiotic. Well, the Dr. asked me if I was on any medication and I told him "yes, I am on birth control", but he did not give me the usual warning so I figured that this antibiotic was not one that would make my birth control not work. Wrong! That was the exact week that I conceived my daughter, she is 6 now. At the time I was not working, I had been fired from my lovely toothpick county job, what a shame! My husband had just recently gotten back from corn de-tasseling in Iowa, and he was back to his construction job, and we were only one year into buying our beautiful, elaborate $6000.00 (total) house.

Now, unexpectedly we were going to have a child. I was upset, this was not what we had planned in our grand sceam of how our life was going to be, and I knew that he would be unhappy about this as well. So, I told my mom and dad, of course they thought that it was just the greatest thing, but I was very weary of telling my husband. As much as I do love him, he can be quite selfish sometimes. So I decided to wait until the opportune moment. Before I could find the right time to tell him, my mom was telling everyone, and mind you we live in a very small town. So, I just had to tell him before he found out by some one else. Needless to say he did not talk to me for three weeks. I really did not expect him to be that upset about it. He did eventually come around, and we worked on everything. He had to take a different job, working with a company that installs signs for Wal-Mart, and he was gone for weeks at a time. I got a job working for the road crew, paving roads and parking lots. I did this until I was 8 months pregnant, I had to quit because it got to were I just could not stand there for 10-12 hrs and not have a bathroom break.

We had to remodel the house and make a room for

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