by Sandra Jacobson

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I have watched and witnessed the dreams, hopes and any chance at love, "love meaning; within ones self, trust in others and yes true love" ruined by the very vultures who perceive to be helping these poor people.

Lets get something straight right now! I don't think just because you are handi-capped or a Senior Citizen, you should be stripped out of any dignity you might have, nor do I think that they should be deprived of having fun when they can or loving when they can, and accepting love when they need it.

When I speak out, it is in hopes that people will listen and work together to change things that should be changed and stick together in order to give each other hope and confidence within the system and themselves.

Many things go on in our system. Many different problems, many different issues, but this is one that I know of very well, might sicken you.

A woman in her late 20's is a Single Mother of two now because of a horrifying suicide that was constructed by her husband, leaving her to raise a four year old daughter and a eight/nine month old son.

Not too long after her husbands death, She was hospitalized because of a medical situation, she had a hysterectomy, taking both ovaries. Not long after that, she went through bowel surgery. When things didn't seem like they could get any worse, she was diagnosed with a spinal disease. It's a very painful disease. Now she starts her hard long road ahead.

She has back surgery, very tough. In a brace for awhile, and very slow recovery, but she manages it. Lots of medication for pain was prescribed by her doctors, and she was home bound for awhile.

She needed some kind of income subsidy, for she was only living on widows pension and orphans pension. Well she did indeed receive their help only to find that it would eventually cost her money?
Get this: The disability worker gets a call from, "a disgruntled boy friend or someone he knows, and accuses her with living common law and not claiming his earnings. Well they couldn't give any evidence to show why they thought this, and she had proof of his house bills, showing that he had his own place but they didn't except that. She fought with them and they charged her a $10.000 fine.
I told you earlier that she was on many medications, and prescribed ones, but she was always in pain. Looking after the children was hard, but they were her passion.
Well they threatened her. They told her that if she didn't sign the papers saying that she was guilty and pay this certain amount back off her next pay cheques from now on or they would cut her off completely. Well Dah! What would you all do? Well, to sick yet to fight, and to broke to do anything, and she wasn't on the right medication. One long term drug and one short term, but they weren't supposed to be taken together. She was not the right person, but of course no one knows the Doctors mistake.

After a few years and a great Doctor, and support of her family and friends , along with meditation, she regained her self worth. She went back and tried to fight for what she believed in. Years of feeling raped, not only by the abusive boyfriend which bankrupted her, but of the system that she believed in.

People after people she called: The Ombudsman, her worker and may other numbers she received through her travels of justice. Still nothing she had lost. No one would help her, so she went to legal Aid and guess what? She Lost, she LoST!

Few years later another call to her worker. Someone phoned in an made a complaint about her Mother way, and was pretty much guilty until proven innocent. Once again, she has to do what they tell her to do. She had to go to court to prove her innocence. She had to bring family, friends and people who just knew this family upside down, her neighbors etc. They courts tell her that she has to be watched and any given time for a period of so many weeks. The first worker that made a visit was a woman, she was mean and just didn't like her. So she asked for a worker who had children. She got a man, two children. After a couple of visits, he told me that he thought she had a beautiful family and found no problems. That was that last she seen them.

Now years later, more painful stomach and back surgery to come. She has to sell her home, Mom and Dad can't help her anymore. She puts it up for sale, and sells just before the marketing of the economy takes it and soars. She's sad, but at least there was some for Mom and Dad.

So she moves farther up north to where her parents live, just before another major surgery on her back just so they can keep and eye on her when she's not feeling well, and keep an eye on her boy, still living his teenage boy hood at home.

She falls in love with a boy from back home. After a year living there, and trying to form a long distant relationship, they decide to marry. He promises her the world, and she moves in with him. Back home, but on a acreage. Little did she know what was going to come next!

Her husband made her pay her own bills, extras, insurance, and the food of her child, him, and his child. Work like a dog, which we all knew she couldn't. Disability cut her off, because of what he made. She got cut back on child tax, because she married him and now GST is also cutting back on their payments. Well excuse me, She's the poor one on disability, and he's the Man with his own bussines and doing well, but NO -take from her and give to him.
What world does the Government live in to think, that in this world we live in today that men are looking after woman, little own a middle aged woman?

The relationship ended, she returned the the help of the government disability, and yes those extra payments still come off her pay!

She is now on disability and the same thing as before, an enemy "wonder who that is", called and reported that again, she was living common law. Again the same private detective, but this time is going to be different. She is healthy mined, she is strong and this time she won't lose. She states: "I have a boyfriend. I see him lots. I am aloud to have a boyfriend and I am aloud to be happy. And to any others who's heart and integrity who have been stomped on like trash, know that you not alone, people who will help change it but everyone must believe it should be changed.

I think the government needs to pay more attention to real criminals and take the time to conceder the sources of their complaints. The above harassers were reported. I think this would of been a good place for the private investor to start!

Too many reports on abuse. At home, in homes, in hospitals, it doesn't matter where, it's wrong. We need to protect our weak. This could be your Mom, Dad, Children or ever You.

Learn more about this author, Sandra Jacobson.

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