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What's so good about goodbye?

It is so hard to say "goodbye" sometimes and separation anxiety makes this already challenging ordeal seemingly unbearable.

Morning drop off can become a daily test of strength, both physical and emotional, and it can really wear a mommy and daddy down over time. That being said, it does get easier with time. It may not seem so right now, but honest, it really does.

Here are a couple of ideas that might help everyone in the meantime. Perhaps one or two, or a combination of some of these ideas can make goodbyes a bit closer to good again.

1) Create a short goodbye ritual. Involve a favorite toy, book, or song.

2) Create a special and very personal handshake routine just for your goodbyes. See who can master it first. Include "tickle fingers" and loads of laughs.

3) Mention a few things that your child might "do today" and tell them that you can't wait to hear all about the adventure and fun when you return.

4) Always wave and smile as you walk or drive off no matter how much you're breaking inside. This will help your child see that you are okay.

5) Always tell your child that you'll see them soon. Some parents don't even use the word goodbye. That's fine!

6) Always be consistent from day to day. Your child will soon know the "normal" goodbye routine.

7) Be understanding but at the same time be firm and persistent. Do not reappear after you have left unless you are prepared to stay or are prepared to take your child with you. If you come back and linger, your child may really get confused and may soon expect this return of yours to become part of the actual daily goodbye routine.

If these suggestions don't help, don't be afraid to ask for help yourself. Have your childcare provider engage your child's attention in some other way; perhaps a good book, activity, or song. But say "goodbye" to your child just the same. Never sneak out on your child as your child may become distraught and try to search you out just as soon as the good book or activity is over.

All best!

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