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yourself time and allow yourself to overcome it. Talk to someone close to you that you can trust or write your feelings in a journal. Dealing with your emotions right away is the best thing to do, not doing so will only suppress them allowing them to come back at another date.

* KEEP YOUR RELATIONSHIP FRIENDLY *

It is going to work so much easier for the both of you if you can bury the hatchet and be civil with each other. If children are involved it will make their lives easier and show them the responsible way to behave. Remember you no longer have to live with this person so you can be civil for a few minutes with them and then thats it, you go to your house and they go to their house. Respecting each other as individuals is the best way to keep a friendly relationship.

* WRITE THEM A LETTER *

if talking in person or the phone is simply not working at this point in your lives then write them a letter. Tell them what you are thinking and feeling and anything in between that you fill is important for them to know. It is a great way of communicating with your ex if you are afraid of telling them certain things. It also allows for you to say things that you normally would not or just have a hard time getting out. Just make sure you do not write a mean or nasty letter with threats and such in it since he or she could use it against you later on.

* HANG UP *

If the two of you can not get things together and hold a descent conversation on the phone then simply say I have to go and hang up. You don't need the extra stress it is not good for you or your ex. Nothing is going to get resolved by the two of you going at it over the phone. So when you have had enough end the conversation! If they are not willing to end it and keep going on tell them to call you in a bit after they have had time to cool down. You can hang up without slamming the phone down! Simply give a reason like you have to go , or we can finish this later and hang up!

Dealing with an ex after divorce is not easy in the beginning. After time goes on the two of you will find an effective way for you two to communicate. Give it time and be patient, eventually the two of you can get past the divorce and work out your differences.

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